I don’t know if you feel the same, but for me the present era we are living in feels like a time of huge shifts and changes; ecological changes, climatic changes, cultural shifts, and indeed, on a personal level, time for reflexive re-evaluation. Developments and change over the last century have been more rapid than any other time in human history, and collectively, the human population has a need to pause and take a deep breath before moving forward towards the 22nd century. Reflections on the global impact of human practices are limited unless we give ourselves time to really observe our place in the world.
The question is, of course, what is our true place, not just as a collective population but as individuals? Have we lost sight of who we are in our efforts to catch up with the changing shifts and expectations we are living with now? We are continuously playing catch-up without embracing the present moment and what that offers us – or what we can offer of ourselves; to recognise and accept our limitations whilst looking ahead to growth and challenges. Tim Ingold perhaps explains this when he suggests that we can think of ourselves not as ‘beings’ but as ‘becomings’ – not discrete and pre-formed entities but as trajectories of movement and growth perpetually and collaboratively creating ourselves.
So, collaboration and individuality are essential parts of being human, but not exclusive to humans. Personal and social connectivity are essential parts of living for many nonhuman others. This dichotomy of living comfortably as a social group whilst feeling able to express oneself seems to trouble us in the present time. As a parallel, observing free-living equines who have experienced minimal human interference for tens or hundreds of years, we see a very different set of social and individual behaviours to their captive conspecifics. There is an ebb and flow, a peacefulness to their lives that is rarely found in captives. Is this how our own species has adapted too? Have we constructed invisible but tangible cages that confine and suppress us, and cause us to feel and behave in ways that restrict us rather than encourage the celebration of diversity?
I also wonder how the current moods and tensions that cloak us impact the animals who live most closely with us, our dogs. Their sensitivities are heightened and more acute. How must it feel to be confined with other beings who are carrying tension, even more so if the dog is unused to proximity to humans. I wrote a while ago about ‘passive observation’ and being with another without expectation – I suppose a form of mindfulness in a way by simply absorbing or becoming embodied by the other. We have relational perceptions of animals; by observing others we observe and examine ourselves. There is an entanglement of lives where one or other is not truly separate but a manifestation of interconnectivity.
Recognising how we feel is helpful but only half the story.
Living that feeling, allowing it to wash through us and to be real is essential for our acceptance of ourselves. Those intuitive niggles that knock on the door of our mind when we move beyond the rational and listen to our gut – so often suppressed! When we do really listen and trust ourselves, the direction of our next step emerges with increasing clarity. We can learn from the free-living horses to find direction through the ebb and flow, and accept that our journey is never linear. The meanders offer the opportunity to consolidate or explore different ways of thinking. Why is this relevant to being with dogs and their people? Because of the relational impact each has on the other. Being in the world is not unconditional; there are conditions within any relationship. We act as witness and advisor, and commit much of ourselves to an often-brief relationship. This giving of ourselves can become draining and at times reducing. We feel smaller, lessened in our own selfhood and self-belief. Catherine Oliver wrote that silence is not devoid of feeling and action, and each person in the relationship – whether client, practitioner, or canine – will not be a neutral participant.
If we can find agreement in a way of working and give agency to one another, the progression is mutually enhancing. Our role is not to simply impart knowledge but to offer stepping-stones to the other that they may discover their own directions and strengths. They can own each lightbulb moment and we celebrate with them. It is part of ‘becoming’. The teacher becomes the learner too.
The timing of collaborative growth isn’t always now; it cannot be forced or coerced into being. It’s also valuable to recognise these times too. It isn’t personal towards us but a reflection of where each individual happens to be. There are times to step away and times to stick around. People are guided by a diversity of values, just sometimes though, when we discard the labels that we readily appropriate we start to see common ground.
Irene Perrett is The DoGenius tutor for our Level 3 Diploma in Canine Care Behaviour & Welfare. She also teaches the Level 5 Diploma in Equine Care, Behaviour & Welfare. Click on the link below for more details.